Less than two months away from his first birthday this little cubbie is crawling everywhere and trying so hard to stand on his own two feet by himself. He’s also now able to take a couple steps when we hold his hands.

I’m so excited for these new developments but also trying hard to enjoy an savor every single moment we have with him now as it’s going by too quickly!


Things have been kinda crazy busy around here. We finished sleep school a week ago and Benji’s sleep is improved slightly, though he’s still waking up about 3 times in the night (down from about 10). We have also decided to make some bold changes such as hiring a nanny instead of sending him to daycare when we’re at work I’m also now back at work 3 days a week which makes the weeks go by even faster.

And speaking of time whizzing by, in less than 2 months, we’re going to celebrate Benji’s first birthday! How did it happen so quickly??? I’ve jut started thinking about the guest list and looking for baby-friendly cake recipes. Exciting times!

I’ve also been blogging more on about more speech and language related topics. Here’s one that I just published yesterday that might be of interest to some of the moms with young ones who read this blog:

Baby B, is now 10 months old. Physically, he is still little; he is very small for his age (5th percentile in weight, and 20th in height). But physical issues aside, his developments in cognition, language, and motor skills the last few months have been anything but little!

At 10 months, he is now able to interact with us in more familiar ways, such as:

  • making eye contact
  • reacting when his name is called
  • babbling, sometimes with some prosody and intonation that sound almost like he’s trying to speak in sentences
  • shaking his head to mean “no” (at times)
  • coping and imitate some of our gestures
  • waving his hands to (at times) indicate “goodbye” or “go away” (lol!!)
  • responding to some verbal and gestural requests

and more.

Most recently, in the last week or so, ..he also started saying “ma-ma-ma-ma”: much to my delight, though still not meaningfully (but we’ll get there!!!).

Now that he’s older, his toy box is also growing. Gone are the days where a playgym or a couple of hand held toys would preoccupy him for hours. He’s so much more active in every way and I’m having heaps of fun playing with him at his level, trying to encourage overall development. Yes, we’re talking SPEECHIE STYLE play. 🙂

If you are interested, here are some suggested play/language activities for your little 6-12 month old babies. Keep reading further for the bilingual edition.



This is quite possibly Baby B’s favorite game at the moment. He LOVES chasing after the ball. He enjoys it when we get involved, too,  by rolling the ball to him and watching him throw it back to us. This is one activity I often do with kids on the autism spectrum who typically lack joint attention skills, to explicitly teach and show them the concept of turn taking and paying attention to others.

For Baby B and babies this age, this simple to and fro activity encourages joint attention and turn taking abilities, two very important pre-verbal and early interaction skills. Research has found correlation between strong joint attention skills and early receptive language abilities (Mundy & Gomes, 1998), and may even predict language development from about 6 months (Morales, Mundy, & Rojas, 1998) (both cited in Morales, 2000).

I like to add in language to describe what you’re doing. E.g., say “Mummy’s rolling the ball to XX” and when the kid catches it, go “Good catch! Now mummy’s turn!” and gesture for the kid to roll the ball over. You can expand the language even more by labeling the ball (size, color).


It’s really incredible how tireless Baby B and other babies seem to be of playing peek-a-boo. We probably do various renditions of this game two or three times at any given day.

Even outside, Baby B would use his stroller blanket to initiate play with me. To encourage and acknowledge his initiation, I respond, even if I look really silly pushing a stroller and making weird, animated faces and gestures back at him.

Responding to your child’s initiations really encourages and fuels more communication.

Stacking blocks 

These knock knock blocks are great – soft, colorful, and textured. .

While Baby B’s not yet at the stage where he’s stacking blocks, I enjoy showing him how to do it. When stacking, I’ll use language containing words such as “up,” “over,” and since he’s learned to topple the tower (with a cheeky grin!), I’ll describe the motion of blocks falling down so he is also introduced to the concept of opposites like “up” and “down.”

Blocks are also great to introduce other words defining positions: prepositions such as (the aforementioned) up, over, down, and also above, beside, between…you might think it’s ridiculous to start telling/teaching your child these words at 10 months but they have actually been found to be part of the first 20 words learned/used by English speaking children (Brown, 1973).

Touch and feel/ peek-a-boo books


I won’t comment or elaborate too much professionally on sensory input/integration in children; that’s the Occupational Therapist’s arena. However, I can talk about how the littles ones enjoy absorbing the sensory input they get from tactile books. This also allows for, yes!, more language building opportunities! We can talk about how things FEEL – and add to the adjective directory of your child’s vocabulary. For instance, does the book feel: soft, bumpy, prickly,…?

I’ll also elaborate more on how/why you need to keep  reading books to your child.

Between 6-12 months, infants can already grasp the concept of books and actions associated with this activity. For instance, using their little fingers to touch and feel tactile books. Baby B has been introduced to these books very early on, and now he will automatically use his fingers to feel pictures everytime he sees a new book, regardless of whether it’s a touch and feel book in anticipation of some sensory input. Between 10-15 months, your child should also know to turn the pages of books, and less and less, put books in their mouths immediately.

With peek-a-boo books (those with flaps), your child should thoroughly enjoy pulling down the flaps to see what lies underneath – again, and again, and again…

As a speechie, I’ll also add: Keep reading to your child; spend sometime everyday to read a book or two, even if you’ve read them before. You can describe pictures, label people, places, actions, sounds, or even make up a new story around the pictures in the books. Bottomline: You can never talk too much to your baby. And better do it now when they still won’t mind it. :-p

Here’s a comprehensive checklist of literacy milestones from 0-24 months old I like.

Hand puppets

These are great toys to introduce to babies the concept of real vs pretend/imaginative play. We know that for the next few years, the child should engage in pretend play. Countless research has also remarked on the salience and benefits of pretend play in cognitive and language development (Bergen, 2002). Currently, Baby B loves the puppet frog we have, and is amused whenever I turn on a different voice for the puppet. He seems to realize that the puppet frog’s voice is mine and that I’m “pretending” to be that puppet frog, controlling its movements.

For a child who is language delayed, they might get this pretend play, and even if they don’t, they might be somewhat intrigued/confused by it. Either way, you have a pretty good shot at getting their attention with puppets. Then, once you’ve commanded their attention, continue on the play and continue to draw the child’s attention to what you’re doing.

Making “music” with boxes, plastic blocks

As infants around the 8-12 month age range start copying movements, I like to facilitate that more and more. Copying enables us to learn from each other, and interact effectively; and, yes, this skill starts very early in life!

I try to show babies, and toddlers in therapy, that sounds can be made by hitting on cardboard boxes or banging two plastic blocks together, and then see what they can do with that. Try to do a few beats here and there, and then as they grow older, do more sophisticated, rhythmic beats. Sometimes you can even pretend to hit the boxes, but use your voice instead to sound the rhythm. Showing the child that objects can make sounds, and then encouraging the child to also make them with their voices, is all part of language development.

At this stage, Baby B enjoys hitting two plastic toys together, and sometimes also banging on boxes or pots and pans (Gulp!! So noisy!). Sometimes I’ll chime in by singing a song and then hitting on the box to the rhythm of the song. (Yes, I took music classes – could you tell?) This is to make the whole learning experience more fun and enjoyable.

Imitate your child’s babbles 

I have to be careful here when I say this…when your child is still babbling, you can and should imitate your infant’s babbles in response. BUT, when they start speaking, they will mispronounce words as their sound systems are still developing – do not imitate those incorrect productions. Instead, model correct words and sounds, regardless of how cute their productions are. E.g., Child says “nana” for “banana.” Model the word correctly for your child “Oh, I think you meant “BAnana” instead of continuing to use “nana.”

Why, then, do you want to imitate your infant’s babbles? Because they haven’t yet learned to meaningfully attach words or babbles to things/feelings/actions. They’re still exploring sounds they can make with their mouths, so encourage that!

Besides imitating, I also like to throw in a few new sounds for Baby B to see and learn. E.g., he’s now babbling with the “b” “d” and “m” consonants. I throw in an “f” or “v” or even some Mandarin only consonants so he hears them and hopefully explores and tries to produce them.

Baby sign

I haven’t been as vigilant about using baby sign, but now that he’s starting to imitate hand gestures and movements, I have resurrected my goal to teach him a couple signs. Baby sign comprises of meaningful gestures designed to teach babies to communicate efficiently their wants and needs. Because baby sign is not a language – in that it does not have any grammatical structures or markers – it is not intended to replace verbal skills, but to complement it.

The idea behind baby sign is that since babies typically learn to attach meaning to gestures earlier than they can use verbal language meaningfully, why not teach some simple signs so they can communicate more efficiently at an earlier stage.

Baby sign can be especially useful for children who are speech and language delayed. If your child is still not babbling or using one-word utterances by 12 months, you should seek professional help for an assessment and might also like to look into trying to teach your baby some signs to facilitate communication.

***Bilingual Edition***

If, like me, you speak another language and hope to raise your child to speak more than one language, NOW is the time to immerse your child in that other language. New research has shown that infants as young as 10-12 months start picking out the sounds of their native language and discarding those that are not (Kuhl, 2012, presentation on TED).

If the other language you speak is a less preferred one, then more effort has to be made to remember to use it with your child. Everyday, I do have to consciously remind myself to speak to Baby B in Mandarin for at least a couple hours. Because Baby B’s dad does not speak the language, I try to do it mostly when it’s just me and Baby B.

Basically, I try to do all the above play activities in English and the other language. For my own sake, I tell myself to speak only the other language at a certain time in the day. And outside those hours, I sometimes also pepper my speech with it. Recently, I’ve also borrowed and bought Mandarin books to read to Baby B in that language. Mandarin books and songs on the iPad also help remind me to use this language more to Baby B.

Who knew there’s already so much you can do with an infant! 🙂

Hopefully, this installment has been useful to some of you new moms out there and/or moms who are concerned about your child’s speech and language skills.

What other ways do you try to develop your infant’s communication? 


Bergen, D. (2002). The role of pretend play in children’s cognitive development. Early Childhood Research and Practice 4(1).  

Brown, R. (1973). Development of first language in the human species. American Psychologist 28(2): 97-106.

Kuhl, P. (2012). The Linguistic Genius of Babies. TED talk:

Morales, M., et al. (2000). Responding to Joint Attention across the 6-month to 24-month age period and early language acquisition. Journal of Applied Developmental Psychology 21(3): 283–298.


Benji is a week away from turning 9 months. Whoah. These last 3 weeks have been kind of hellish. You know this whole sleep regression that people say happens at 8 months? Well, he got it. Yes, just after he got sleep trained. It got progressively worse really quickly. I remember very shortly after the first night he started waking up for a feed, he started waking up more and more, and refused to go back to sleep. One of the nights he was up for almost 2 hours. Last night he was up every other hour! We have stopped letting him cry it out because he has now learned to throw up, and also every time we go in to the room he would either be sitting up or, as he has learned in the last two days, standing up in the crib.

We are beyond exhausted. I think I can see a top tooth coming out, but it might just be my own imagination, trying to search for some consolation that this might pass soon.

Some people say it comes and goes within a week or two but we are now into week 3 and Benji shows now signs of progression.

Having said that, other than sleep, everything seems to be developing exponentially. He’s now crawling much quicker, lifting himself up with anything and everything he can use to support himself, babbling a whole range of consonants (even non-English ones!), playing with the old pots and pans we had meant to get rid of but that he found stashed in a corner, and taking formula in the daytime.  Being so mobile now, Benji has also started exploring everything he can in the house. This means: we need to babyproof our place!!!

He has also been going to daycare twice a week for three weeks now…and well, he has a ways to go with settling in to that environment. Separation anxiety is at its peak but he also has lots more giggles and is so playful when around us.

Every age is interesting with kids. And this one, is definitely the most so far…and one that’s also kicking our butts really hard. Every night I pray that he will learn to sleep like he did just 3 weeks ago. I’m still waiting.

Meanwhile, I just made an appointment with our Maternal and Child Health Nurse for a check-up to make sure his sleep regression is really just developmental, and that there’s nothing more healthwise instigating this mania.

More updates later.





Benji’s been teething for a long, long time now. His two lower central incisors have since sprung up but he’s still feeling the itch once in awhile. I am not surprised if the two upper ones pop up anytime now given how much he still drools and bites. One of the things he seems to particularly enjoy gnawing on are these teething rusks. I also like how he can grasp them in his palm which makes it a great way to introduce finger foods to him. The ones I got are made in Australia and are wheat and dairy free; I’m still not 100% certain that he has these food allergies but since his eczema has flared up in the winter here, I’m not taking chances. (More on this topic later.)

For the moms out there who have more free time than me and want to try making your own, here’s a recipe. Let me know how you go with it if you do!

We’ve been back in Melbourne a week now. I have such mixed feelings being here. It’s our home but I have never completely felt at ease here. And I still don’t. I miss Vancouver a lot, and needless to say, miss our families, both Bry’s and mine.

It’s now winter in the Southern Hemisphere and in just a short week, Benji’s eczema got markedly worse (his skin was wonderfully glowing in Asia, especially in humid Singapore). Lots of other new Benji developments have taken place in this short span: he caught his first cold and had a temperature two nights ago. He seemed better today, though is still slightly congested (only really obvious when he’s feeding). He is showing huge signs of separation anxiety, which is manifested mostly in the night. He now wakes up once every two hours and can only be settled back to sleep by me.

On the plus side, he’s sitting up really well and making fervent attempts at crawling. 🙂

When we first arrived back in Melbourne, my milk supply decreased quite a bit. It was a rather stressful first few days, from saying goodbye to my family and suddenly being by ourselves again, to having to unpack boxes from our storage and “move” back into our place…But thanks to the kind moms who responded to my “plea” – I did try oatmeal, and also ate a lot more food during mealtimes, kept hydrated, and have been going to bed at around 10pm every night. Two days ago, my milk supply seemed to have return – whew.

Apologies if this post sounds negative – I am still feeling somewhat overwhelmed. In the next week, we are starting Benji at a daycare, and I am returning to work one day a week. We might also start him on formula as I’m thinking of weaning him off the breast. Huge milestones, and honestly, I don’t know if they can be achieved without us going out of our minds given how unsettled Benji has become in the last week.

Other “to do”s in the next week: attend a playgroup with Benji – our first in Melbourne, and look out for activities around town to do with him. Basically, we are starting our “mom and baby” life from scratch: will it be just as awesome as our experience in Vancouver?

So I have to confess: I had a pretty big cry on Bry’s shoulder this evening after putting Benji to bed from all the things we’ve had to deal with so far and potential problems to come. I felt better after that meltdown…but yeah, it’s not looking peachy.


Tool Benji to a “baby spa,” a place that essentially introduces babies to swimming. Being nearly 7months at that time, he was quite aware of being in a completely new environment and doing a new activity. He was so tense at first, whining and crying and needed lots of cajoling and assurance. But after about twenty minutes or so, he was able to graduate to a bigger tub and by the end of the session, kick his legs a little in the water, a sign that he was relaxing and enjoying it. I was glad too that my family: mom, dad, brother and sister were also there and got to witness this momentous occasion. At one point there were seven cameras/camera phones snapping away-kinda ridiculous but given the limited time everyone gets to spend with Benji, it’s understandable. 🙂
We are still having so much fun here. Benji just turned seven months yesterday. I sound so cliche but I can’t help saying that time is flying by too quickly.